Shame And Guilt - Is There A Difference?
Posted: Saturday, September 06, 2008
by Michelle Mackin
Blogz.org Higher Level Blogging
Too many times in my life I had held on to guilt. It was never my fault, my lawyer screwed me or the police officer was cheating. My mom was dysfunctional, on and on… so it would go. In all honesty I was the one who was a disgrace and at fault.
Praise God that I felt His presence and called upon Him. I learned that I was responsible for me. What a turning point in my life. I have learned so many valuable lessons. Today with each lesson I grow and am blessed abundantly. You couldn't pay me to give up my experiences and new life.
There are more times than I can count where I have heard the question "Is there a difference between shame and guilt?" While one usually encounters both emotions surrounding something said, done, or even thought, there is a difference.
Shame is defined as disgrace, embarrassment, dishonor and humiliation. Shame finds its source externally. It is external.
Guilt is defined as fault, responsibility and blame. Guilt is internal.
These emotions never feel good. Yet, once we recognize these emotions we can get past them. Providing we are willing to do something different. Should we decide that we want to take responsibility for our actions, or lack of, we are able to turn these negative emotions around to something positive. A learning experience!
Needing to get rid of your shame? While there are 145 scriptures referencing shame, here is one passage that says a lot.
1 Corinthians 6:9-11 (NIV)
9Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit theWe are forgiven!
If you are tired of feeling these negative emotions, find a person who can mentor you. You will find a new friend and your life may turn around.
Are you ready for change? It is well worth it.
Michelle Mackin is a pastor's wife. While working in business and bookkeeping she is a mother of three and grandmother of three. While her first desire is to serve the Lord, she also loves music, puzzles, lakes and the ocean. Michelle has no time to get bored. To read other articles go to Wordcasters, http://blogzorg.ning.com
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Top-level comments on this article: (6 total)hi michelle,this was really good article. it was smooth, and seemed effortless. the differece beween blame and guilt was the best explanation i've ever heard.i know what you are talkig about, been there, and i know there's a way, if one works hard. thanks for sharing,my best,sueHi Sue!I am glad you liked it. Wouldn't it be nice if we could all learn to get rid of these emotions in a productive (positive) way?God bless
Michelle, a new creation and everything old washed away. I do have to admit this is the hard part we humans all must recognize. Get on with it gal you have a lot to do in life. Robert.Thank you Robert,I know I have been called to do a lot, and sometimes I would like to bury my head in the sand and hide, as it can be overwhelming at times. Without a doubt I am human and fall short. Then it is all well worth it if there is one more for Jesus.God bless you always my friend
Hi Michelle! This topic is so important for people to hear about. I am so glad that you put this together. Good job!Thank you Mark,Yes, I also think it is important to spread God's word about getting rid of both. Nonetheless, it takes willingness on the common denominator.God bless and I love you
The variety of your articles is very amazing to me. Keep up the good work.luftbomhI usually write what is on my mind at the moment. It could range from one spectrum to the other. Thank you.Ditto
Hi Michelle, great job--God is merciful to the one who allows their guilt to lead them to the Savior. God bless you and thanks for the encouraging word to reach out and make a change! Hugs and love, TeresaThank you my dear friend,It is funny, because I actually sat on this one for about a month. I am feeling insecure about my writing again. I feel as though I am writing in my diary when I do. I really want to make a change and for others to experience the joy that I myself have in Christ.Hugs and blessings,
Nice article. Linda D
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